How To Make Children Do Something When They Don’t Want To?

Getting children to do something when they don’t want to can be a colossal task, especially when it comes to children who, when pressured, often trigger their protest and denial in a tantrum or rebellion. To teach you how to deal with your little one’s personality and show you the best ways to get him to do something when he doesn’t really want to, we decided to write this article.

Secrets to making children do what they don’t want

Do not demand more

If your child has already done or is doing what is so difficult for you to do, say for example, the math homework, you do not want him to start studying another subject later. When he’s done with the math, release him and give him time before you try to pick up the subject of homework.

This demand will only awaken and increase your rebellion.

Match the task that you reject to another that you like

If your 2-year-old does not like to brush his teeth, combine this part of the toilet with an activity that he does enjoy. For example, watch cartoons.

Sit him in front of the TV and put on cartoons that he likes while you give him the toothbrush to wash. Stay by his side to remind him to brush. Since you will be more focused on television, it will not take much for you to do so.

Make a pact with him

To make a pact with your son is to allow him something he wants, if he does what you want.

Said pact must be a mutual agreement. Neither party will be influenced or subdued by the other.

For example.

Your teenager wants to go out on the weekend at night. You want me to do well on Friday’s test. The pact here is clear: “if you have a good grade, I’ll let you out.”

This type of agreement creates in the child a unique feeling of independence and autonomy:

• I am the owner of my life
• In my hands is the one who achieves or not my dream
• I have the power to decide for myself.

Do not force it. He must do it of his own free will

Telling yourself that you should not force or demand him, but wait for him to do his homework or any other suggestion of yours of his own free will, will surely provoke a smile. But we assure you that this you can achieve. You just need to link what you want him to do with a consequence that he dislikes and concerns him.

At this point we are going to give you an example of one of our readers so that you know how she managed to get her teenage son to pick up and clean his room. We will call the mother Ana and her son, Mario.

Well, as we mentioned to you, Ana found it impossible to clean her son Mario’s room, simply because he didn’t want to. The boy liked having his belongings, according to him, where he knew he would find them. That is why he kept his room in complete disorder.

In order not to use force and awaken her son’s rebellion, Ana made an irrefutable decision.

All of Mario’s visits, including a half-lover she had, she sent directly to her room.

Although some friends felt comfortable with the young man’s room, not all, least of all the girls, reacted the same; So, just to make a better impression on his classmates, Mario started by keeping his room a little tidier, making
his bed, hanging his clothes inside the closet and in the end, he didn’t clean, but at least he did let his mother enter a once a week to do the toilet.

Give him a routine

Routines help us to solve in a better way what we find difficult to do.

If the child does not like to help clear the table, he establishes the habit, not only in him but in all members of the family, of getting up from the table with his plate, cutlery and glass in his hands.

You can start this routine with this simple task but little by little you can increase it until at the end your child learns it and it is he who every day, by himself, ends up lifting the food and other cutlery from the table.